I've been Facebook free for almost a year. For the most part, it's been just fine. I haven't been chomping at the bit these last several months to rejoin. I've pretty much enjoyed being free from the gossip (okay that's kind of a lie. I still receive the occasional juicy bit of info via text lol) and drama and mean-spirited posts. And of course, the most important reason I quit FB was to spend more time with my children. I think I've improved in that area, but I'm still not the most attentive mom I could be. It always seems like there's something to be done that takes me away from them. (Today we spent a lot of time snuggling on the couch watching Veggie Tales. That was pretty amazing. 80) )
Anyway, we're getting a new microwave. Hopefully I won't use it for every last thing. Also, I'm rejoining Facebook on January 1st. That will be a full year without social media. (unless you count blogging?) My biggest fear is that I get sucked in and addicted again. So, I need to pray for strength and self-control! I know there are many people (I can't give you a number, but I'm pretty popular, so like, a lot) that have been nagging me to get back on and that they miss me. But the main reason I've decided to get back on FB is to help the home business I'm going to be starting. Shortly after the new year, I plan on consulting for Scentsy. If I want to keep in easy contact with customers, it just makes sense to be on facebook, especially since many of my customers will be friends and family (at least in the beginning). I really hope that I'm successful! I'll definitely be blogging about it!
So this leads me to my question: Should I change my blog name? Life During Facebook? Life With Facebook? Life in Spite of Facebook? Life Trumps Facebook?
Friday, December 23, 2011
Monday, December 5, 2011
The Goose is Getting Fat
I've officially gotten into the Christmas spirit.
Our decorations are up, including our first normal sized Christmas tree! Years before, we put up a little "Charlie Brown" tree that sat on a table in the corner. Well, my parents had an extra one they didn't need, so they gave it to us. It's just perfect for our little living room! Last Thursday, Justin put it together (I understand that going out in the cold, chopping down a real tree and hauling it home is a bit more manly, but I'm content with a fake one.) and strung the lights. He also did the garland at the top of the tree and put on the star. I did the rest of the trimmings. I also put out the Nativity set and other Christmas decorations.
I made this Advent calendar for the kids, along with a bunch of little ornaments to put in the drawers. Each day they get to open a drawer and put the ornament on the tree. I don't have 25 ornaments yet. I may have to substitute candy or other treats for some of the drawers.
In addition to the decorations, there are some events coming up. I know that a lot of people get stressed out and annoyed by all the Christmas/Holiday events they're obligated to attend, but I'm excited! We have a friends' Christmas party this weekend, a cookie decorating party and exchange next week. There's a visit to Ohio to see my family, as well as the Farno Christmas exchange. Later in the month, we're having our mommies group Christmas party, part of which will be here. Christmas morning will just be our little family, and I wouldn't want it any other way. Judy will come up at the end of the month, which is when the kids will have a million more gifts to open.
I'm done buying gifts for the kids - but that's easy when you only get 3 for each. I do have some more shopping to do, but I'm not stressed about it. I'm hoping to get almost everything without physically entering a store. We'll see how that goes.
Unlike the vast majority of families around the country, we do not celebrate Santa Claus. There are just a few Santa ornaments. I don't think the idea of Santa is evil, especially since I know he's based on a real guy. Plus, I believed in Santa when I was little, and I turned out all right. ;0) I just don't want to deceive my children about anything. Obviously, we're going to make Jesus the emphasis of the season. At the same time, I want them to enjoy the "magic" of Christmas. I want my children to be excited about the gifts under the tree, and for a few years at least, wonder who and where they came from. One thing's for certain, I don't want my kids to ever think that they get gifts because of their behavior. They get gifts because we love them.
All in all, it's going to be a wonderful Christmas!
Speaking of wonderful, I wonder when It's a Wonderful Life will be on TV. There's another tradition I'll have to start with the kids...
Our decorations are up, including our first normal sized Christmas tree! Years before, we put up a little "Charlie Brown" tree that sat on a table in the corner. Well, my parents had an extra one they didn't need, so they gave it to us. It's just perfect for our little living room! Last Thursday, Justin put it together (I understand that going out in the cold, chopping down a real tree and hauling it home is a bit more manly, but I'm content with a fake one.) and strung the lights. He also did the garland at the top of the tree and put on the star. I did the rest of the trimmings. I also put out the Nativity set and other Christmas decorations.
I made this Advent calendar for the kids, along with a bunch of little ornaments to put in the drawers. Each day they get to open a drawer and put the ornament on the tree. I don't have 25 ornaments yet. I may have to substitute candy or other treats for some of the drawers.
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| Don't worry, the clashing table cloth didn't stay. |
I'm done buying gifts for the kids - but that's easy when you only get 3 for each. I do have some more shopping to do, but I'm not stressed about it. I'm hoping to get almost everything without physically entering a store. We'll see how that goes.
Unlike the vast majority of families around the country, we do not celebrate Santa Claus. There are just a few Santa ornaments. I don't think the idea of Santa is evil, especially since I know he's based on a real guy. Plus, I believed in Santa when I was little, and I turned out all right. ;0) I just don't want to deceive my children about anything. Obviously, we're going to make Jesus the emphasis of the season. At the same time, I want them to enjoy the "magic" of Christmas. I want my children to be excited about the gifts under the tree, and for a few years at least, wonder who and where they came from. One thing's for certain, I don't want my kids to ever think that they get gifts because of their behavior. They get gifts because we love them.
All in all, it's going to be a wonderful Christmas!
Speaking of wonderful, I wonder when It's a Wonderful Life will be on TV. There's another tradition I'll have to start with the kids...
Saturday, December 3, 2011
Kids
I really should be better at blogging about my kids...
Josie
Josie is 2 days shy of being 3 years and 5 months old. Other than the occasional accident, she is fully potty-trained, and is even sleeping in undies at night! It's funny how awful the process was a few months ago. Looking back, it doesn't seem like such a big deal. ;0) I've also learned that it's better to reward the positive than punish the negative, at least for her. Now we keep a small container of marshmallows that I give to her when she goes in the toilet (that is, when she reminds me haha).
Josie is still seeing a speech therapist once a week. There has definitely been a lot of improvements, and she really likes Julia, her therapist. She's gotten much better at saying that she wants something instead of whining or having to show me and point to whatever it is that she wants. This would probably seem bratty for other kids to do, but Josie points to herself and emphatically says, "I want X." I know that this is her way of learning how to properly express her needs/wants, so it doesn't bother me at all. However, we are working on adding the word "please" to that sentence. She's also gotten better at making choices. One choice we give her a lot is: Do you want help or do you want to do it yourself? She has become a lot more independent, and very often says, "do it self!" We're also working on yes and no questions, as well as open-ended questions. The latter will take more time, which I'm okay with.
Josie's main issue is not her expression of language. She repeats things very well and generally speaks pretty clearly. She struggles with the comprehension of language. So, she doesn't exactly have a speech problem, but a language comprehension problem. I've had to emphasize to myself that she doesn't follow instructions because she's a bad/disobedient child, but because she just doesn't understand. She needs a lot more repetition, visual assistance and follow through than most children her age.
In the next several weeks, Josie is going to be evaluated by a group of "experts" from the local schools in order to determine what is the next step in addressing her language delays. She'll be evaluated by a school psychologist, an early childhood teacher, a speech and language pathologist, and social worker. Justin and I are planning on homeschooling the kids, and I really hope that I don't have to put Josie in school. I will if that's the BEST thing for her. I don't want to cause her to be delayed more than she already is. On the other hand, I would love to be able to homeschool AND receive help from the local schools. We'll see though.
Josie's speech therapist suggested that she needed more interaction with other children her age. Last Tuesday morning she had her first tumbling class. It was a parent and tot class, and I think she really enjoyed herself! There are only two other children, and they are both significantly younger than Josie, but I still think she is going to learn a lot. One thing that I think will improve is her ability to follow instructions. I also hope her physical abilities, especially jumping and standing on one foot, will improve.
I'm not sure if I mentioned it previously, but Josie got a new bad a while back. She is now sleeping on a twin bed. The first few nights were a little rough, just because it was so unfamiliar, but she has really gotten used to her big girl bed. Also, she has learned how to open her bedroom door. It's an old, tricky handle, but she's figured it out! It's only a matter of time before she learns how to operate the remote control and make her own breakfast...
Deuce
Deuce is almost 22 months old. It's hard to believe that in just a couple months, he's going to be 2 years old! He really is a sweet, sweet boy. He loves giving hugs and kisses, even to his sister! However, he has recently started utilizing some wrestling moves on Josie. I have yet to see any submission holds or much "ground and pound" action, but Josie seems to think it's pretty funny right now.
Deuce's vocabulary is definitely improving. I actually think he's a little delayed in his speech as well, but he seems to comprehend language a little better. He talks a lot, but most of what he says is a completely different language. I have yet to determine what that language is, though. haha But anyway, recently he's been labeling things a little better and even putting a couple words together. For example, he says, "Good job!" and "All done!" and "Uh oh spaghettios!" ("spaghettios" sounds more like "W") and "More milk? and "Thank you!""
I'm wondering if I should get ready to potty-train Deuce. He has seen his sister go many many times, and often sits on the little potty while she's on the toilet. And he has started informing me when his diaper needs to be changed, either by grabbing at it or saying, "poop." I think that I might need to start potty-training him soon. The bigger I get, the harder it's going to be. And after the baby is born, I'm just not going to be able to for awhile. I just need to pump myself up for it again.
The boy has definitely developed some questinable habits. For example, the very first thing he does in the morning is grab the TV remote and say, "watch watch watch?!" He also has been prone to a few more temper tantrums lately. He seems to get frustrated easily. I hope that isn't a trait that he takes into adulthood. I don't want my kids to be high strung!
Generally Josie and Deuce play well together, but they've begun fighting over their toys more. I've made a point not to emphasize what toys belong to whom, because I don't like the whole "mine!!" stage that kids go through. I rarely say, "That's Josie's toy." Instead I say something like, "Deuce, Josie is playing with that right now. You can play with it when she's done." And vise versa. Or I'll say, "Why don't you play with 'this' while you wait?" If that doesn't work, I usually end up taking the toy away entirely.
I've been working on my consistency with discipline lately. I've gotten pretty fed up with the whining, so if either of them are carrying on for more than 30 seconds, I say something like, "that's enough crying/whining. You need to be all done now." And if they don't stop, I say, "do you want to go to bed/your crib?" Or "Do you want a spanking?" Usually they'll shake their heads "no." If the fit doesn't immediately stop, I tell them they have until the count of 3 to knock it off or they get the consequence. The key is to actually follow through with the consequences.
Baby
I am about 22 1/2 weeks along. You'd never know that by looking at me, because I look much bigger than that! We had an ultrasound right around 19 weeks, and everything looked good. The baby is also measuring as expected. Oh yeah, we also found out the sex of the baby. We're having another girl! Justin was really pulling for a boy. He's not sure he can handle the stress of having more than one teenage girl. (In the words of our friend, Tim: "When you have a boy, you only have to worry about one penis. When you have a girl, you have to worry about all of them." lol) We've decided to name her Margaret, after my sister. It so happens that one of Justin's favorite aunts was also named Margaret. Her nickname will be Margo. We are not sure on the middle name yet. I have some ideas, but we'll see what we end up deciding on.
She's gotten a lot more active in recent weeks, and I just love that! She hasn't started abusing me internally like Deuce did, but I'm sure that will come in due time. Also, I have not had horrible acid reflux. I really really hope I don't have to deal with that!
We are planning on another homebirth. I really can't imagine doing this any other way. I have chosen a different midwife, and so far I like her a lot. My last midwife was very knowledgeable and good at what she does, but I want a different "bed-side manner" this time. My closest girlfriends will be there to support me, and I'm really looking forward to that. I know that Justin likes having others there to ease his stress a little bit. He is so supportive and wonderful during labor, but I know that inside he's a complete wreck. Believe it or not, I do like the process of giving birth. It's very hard, but exciting and so fulfilling! And of course, I'm really looking forward to meeting our little girl!
But anyway, now you have some updates. That should hold you over for another month or so. ;0)
Josie
Josie is 2 days shy of being 3 years and 5 months old. Other than the occasional accident, she is fully potty-trained, and is even sleeping in undies at night! It's funny how awful the process was a few months ago. Looking back, it doesn't seem like such a big deal. ;0) I've also learned that it's better to reward the positive than punish the negative, at least for her. Now we keep a small container of marshmallows that I give to her when she goes in the toilet (that is, when she reminds me haha).
Josie is still seeing a speech therapist once a week. There has definitely been a lot of improvements, and she really likes Julia, her therapist. She's gotten much better at saying that she wants something instead of whining or having to show me and point to whatever it is that she wants. This would probably seem bratty for other kids to do, but Josie points to herself and emphatically says, "I want X." I know that this is her way of learning how to properly express her needs/wants, so it doesn't bother me at all. However, we are working on adding the word "please" to that sentence. She's also gotten better at making choices. One choice we give her a lot is: Do you want help or do you want to do it yourself? She has become a lot more independent, and very often says, "do it self!" We're also working on yes and no questions, as well as open-ended questions. The latter will take more time, which I'm okay with.
Josie's main issue is not her expression of language. She repeats things very well and generally speaks pretty clearly. She struggles with the comprehension of language. So, she doesn't exactly have a speech problem, but a language comprehension problem. I've had to emphasize to myself that she doesn't follow instructions because she's a bad/disobedient child, but because she just doesn't understand. She needs a lot more repetition, visual assistance and follow through than most children her age.
In the next several weeks, Josie is going to be evaluated by a group of "experts" from the local schools in order to determine what is the next step in addressing her language delays. She'll be evaluated by a school psychologist, an early childhood teacher, a speech and language pathologist, and social worker. Justin and I are planning on homeschooling the kids, and I really hope that I don't have to put Josie in school. I will if that's the BEST thing for her. I don't want to cause her to be delayed more than she already is. On the other hand, I would love to be able to homeschool AND receive help from the local schools. We'll see though.
Josie's speech therapist suggested that she needed more interaction with other children her age. Last Tuesday morning she had her first tumbling class. It was a parent and tot class, and I think she really enjoyed herself! There are only two other children, and they are both significantly younger than Josie, but I still think she is going to learn a lot. One thing that I think will improve is her ability to follow instructions. I also hope her physical abilities, especially jumping and standing on one foot, will improve.
I'm not sure if I mentioned it previously, but Josie got a new bad a while back. She is now sleeping on a twin bed. The first few nights were a little rough, just because it was so unfamiliar, but she has really gotten used to her big girl bed. Also, she has learned how to open her bedroom door. It's an old, tricky handle, but she's figured it out! It's only a matter of time before she learns how to operate the remote control and make her own breakfast...
Deuce
Deuce is almost 22 months old. It's hard to believe that in just a couple months, he's going to be 2 years old! He really is a sweet, sweet boy. He loves giving hugs and kisses, even to his sister! However, he has recently started utilizing some wrestling moves on Josie. I have yet to see any submission holds or much "ground and pound" action, but Josie seems to think it's pretty funny right now.
Deuce's vocabulary is definitely improving. I actually think he's a little delayed in his speech as well, but he seems to comprehend language a little better. He talks a lot, but most of what he says is a completely different language. I have yet to determine what that language is, though. haha But anyway, recently he's been labeling things a little better and even putting a couple words together. For example, he says, "Good job!" and "All done!" and "Uh oh spaghettios!" ("spaghettios" sounds more like "W") and "More milk? and "Thank you!""
I'm wondering if I should get ready to potty-train Deuce. He has seen his sister go many many times, and often sits on the little potty while she's on the toilet. And he has started informing me when his diaper needs to be changed, either by grabbing at it or saying, "poop." I think that I might need to start potty-training him soon. The bigger I get, the harder it's going to be. And after the baby is born, I'm just not going to be able to for awhile. I just need to pump myself up for it again.
The boy has definitely developed some questinable habits. For example, the very first thing he does in the morning is grab the TV remote and say, "watch watch watch?!" He also has been prone to a few more temper tantrums lately. He seems to get frustrated easily. I hope that isn't a trait that he takes into adulthood. I don't want my kids to be high strung!
Generally Josie and Deuce play well together, but they've begun fighting over their toys more. I've made a point not to emphasize what toys belong to whom, because I don't like the whole "mine!!" stage that kids go through. I rarely say, "That's Josie's toy." Instead I say something like, "Deuce, Josie is playing with that right now. You can play with it when she's done." And vise versa. Or I'll say, "Why don't you play with 'this' while you wait?" If that doesn't work, I usually end up taking the toy away entirely.
I've been working on my consistency with discipline lately. I've gotten pretty fed up with the whining, so if either of them are carrying on for more than 30 seconds, I say something like, "that's enough crying/whining. You need to be all done now." And if they don't stop, I say, "do you want to go to bed/your crib?" Or "Do you want a spanking?" Usually they'll shake their heads "no." If the fit doesn't immediately stop, I tell them they have until the count of 3 to knock it off or they get the consequence. The key is to actually follow through with the consequences.
Baby
I am about 22 1/2 weeks along. You'd never know that by looking at me, because I look much bigger than that! We had an ultrasound right around 19 weeks, and everything looked good. The baby is also measuring as expected. Oh yeah, we also found out the sex of the baby. We're having another girl! Justin was really pulling for a boy. He's not sure he can handle the stress of having more than one teenage girl. (In the words of our friend, Tim: "When you have a boy, you only have to worry about one penis. When you have a girl, you have to worry about all of them." lol) We've decided to name her Margaret, after my sister. It so happens that one of Justin's favorite aunts was also named Margaret. Her nickname will be Margo. We are not sure on the middle name yet. I have some ideas, but we'll see what we end up deciding on.
She's gotten a lot more active in recent weeks, and I just love that! She hasn't started abusing me internally like Deuce did, but I'm sure that will come in due time. Also, I have not had horrible acid reflux. I really really hope I don't have to deal with that!
We are planning on another homebirth. I really can't imagine doing this any other way. I have chosen a different midwife, and so far I like her a lot. My last midwife was very knowledgeable and good at what she does, but I want a different "bed-side manner" this time. My closest girlfriends will be there to support me, and I'm really looking forward to that. I know that Justin likes having others there to ease his stress a little bit. He is so supportive and wonderful during labor, but I know that inside he's a complete wreck. Believe it or not, I do like the process of giving birth. It's very hard, but exciting and so fulfilling! And of course, I'm really looking forward to meeting our little girl!
But anyway, now you have some updates. That should hold you over for another month or so. ;0)
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Microwave
I've been feeling more pressure to get back on facebook. I told one of my friends to get 100 signatures on a petition to have me rejoin, and I would. She convinced me to decrease it to 50. Haha. Even though I like the idea of not being a total conformist, I miss the interaction. There are pictures I don't see and stories I miss out on because I'm not on FB. Plus, all those facebook events I don't get invited to. haha But, I also save myself from plenty of drama and negativity and gossip, not to mention how much time I could be wasting.
Recently, our microwave died. It involved a little smoke and an electrical fragrance. So, for the past couple weeks, we've had to use the stove and the oven for all of our cooking. It definitely takes more time and planning, but I've noticed that the food tastes better! Even though I'm required to put forth a little more effort (and have more patience), the results have been yummier for sure. We're going to get a new one eventually, but I've actually grown to like cooking the "old-fashioned" way.
Facebook is like a microwave. It's convenient and does what it's supposed to, but it might not be the most healthy and satisfactory tool.
Now I'm not saying that facebook is bad or that radiation is involved. I'm just wondering if it affects the quality of relationships, because it's too easy. People don't have to put forth any effort. They can just look at their iPhone or hop on their laptop, read some status updates and post a few comments.
Facebook is a great tool, just like a microwave is. But it shouldn't be the only tool we use in fostering relationships. Sometimes we have to plan a little more and put forth more effort to get the best results. That might mean picking up the phone or mailing a letter (support the USPS! lol) or driving over to someone's house and talking to them face to face as alternate ways of communicating. It might mean *doing* something for our friends and loved ones to show our appreciation rather than just saying something on facebook. I can't give you a hug or hold your hands while praying with you or bake you cookies or share a meal with your family or babysit your kids or go to the zoo with you on facebook.
While typing this blog, I've realized that I probably haven't been putting forth the best effort over this last year. From now on, I'm going to plan a little more and take more time to foster relationships with my family and friends.
However, this isn't to say that I'm opposed to rejoining facebook one of these days.... ;0)
PS I'll post updates of my life in another blog soon, but right now, I need to go spend some quality time with my children.
Recently, our microwave died. It involved a little smoke and an electrical fragrance. So, for the past couple weeks, we've had to use the stove and the oven for all of our cooking. It definitely takes more time and planning, but I've noticed that the food tastes better! Even though I'm required to put forth a little more effort (and have more patience), the results have been yummier for sure. We're going to get a new one eventually, but I've actually grown to like cooking the "old-fashioned" way.
Facebook is like a microwave. It's convenient and does what it's supposed to, but it might not be the most healthy and satisfactory tool.
Now I'm not saying that facebook is bad or that radiation is involved. I'm just wondering if it affects the quality of relationships, because it's too easy. People don't have to put forth any effort. They can just look at their iPhone or hop on their laptop, read some status updates and post a few comments.
Facebook is a great tool, just like a microwave is. But it shouldn't be the only tool we use in fostering relationships. Sometimes we have to plan a little more and put forth more effort to get the best results. That might mean picking up the phone or mailing a letter (support the USPS! lol) or driving over to someone's house and talking to them face to face as alternate ways of communicating. It might mean *doing* something for our friends and loved ones to show our appreciation rather than just saying something on facebook. I can't give you a hug or hold your hands while praying with you or bake you cookies or share a meal with your family or babysit your kids or go to the zoo with you on facebook.
While typing this blog, I've realized that I probably haven't been putting forth the best effort over this last year. From now on, I'm going to plan a little more and take more time to foster relationships with my family and friends.
However, this isn't to say that I'm opposed to rejoining facebook one of these days.... ;0)
PS I'll post updates of my life in another blog soon, but right now, I need to go spend some quality time with my children.
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Life is but a Vapor
Today I found out that one of my classmates (from kindergarten to high school graduation) died as a result of childbirth complications. I'm from a small town, and there were less than 80 students in my graduating class. So everyone knew everyone. Mandi was her name. She had an identical twin sister named Abi. I haven't been in touch with either of them for a long time. I suppose not being on FB has something to do with that. For some reason, when I heard the news, it hit me like a ton of bricks. I cried a lot today. I don't know any details about what exactly happened. One thing I know is that the baby survived - a girl they named Abigail after her aunt. It pains me to think about what her husband, parents, sisters, brother, in-laws and close friends are going through right now. I'm upset as a result of empathy for her loved ones, not because I've lost a good friend. Although, I have always liked Mandi. As far as I can remember, she was always nice to me and to others. I also think this hits a little closer to home, not only because I knew her, but because I'm pregnant. Maternal mortality rates were always a statistic that meant little to me. I guess that's how statistics are: pointless until you know someone who is a statistic. I know that pretty much all death is tragic, but is there anything worse than going to the hospital with your wife, expecting your first baby, and then losing your wife in the process? The emotional rollercoaster has got to be almost unbearable. I pray that God would give everyone close to Mandi peace that surpasses understanding, that they would find comfort that defies logic and that their hearts would heal soon.
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Miscellaneous
It's not like *nothing* has been going on these last few weeks; I've just lost motivation to update my blog lately. And even if something interesting happens, it might not be interesting to anyone else. It's hard to say when I don't know who (if anyone haha) reads my blog. I'm not sure if I've even been missed. ;0) Anyway, let's see if I can share what's been going on lately.
I'm 17 weeks pregnant. We should be able to find out the sex of the baby soon. I just need to make an appointment for an ultrasound. I've gotten to hear the heartbeat twice, at two different appointments with the midwife. Speaking of midwives, I have a new one this time around. She seems very nice and motherly. I think she'll bring a different dynamic to this next homebirth. I still haven't decided who I want to be here, besides Justin and of course, the midwife. I don't feel like I need a natural birth expert, because I pretty much know what I'm doing. But on the other hand, I don't want nobody to be here (that's a double negative, but I meant it that way haha). I know I'm the one doing the hard work, but it's a very stressful time for Justin, and sometimes he needs to be able to step away for a few minutes. So, I'd like at least one other person to be there, just in case. I'm going to keep thinking and praying about it before I make a final decision. (I jokingly suggested to Justin that I have my three closest friends here while he and their husbands hang out in the backyard. He thought that was a fabulous idea lol.)
My parents came to town last weekend. Well, they were here from Thursday to Sunday. It was a nice, but quick visit. Justin and I and my parents went out to dinner while Alana, Justin's sister, watched the kiddos for a few hours. Then on Friday, while Justin was sleeping, the kids and I went to Brown Deer where my parents' hotel was. We hung out, went to a pumpkin farm/petting zoo, the kids swam in the hotel pool (with Grandma and Grandpa), and then we went out for pizza. It was a very full day! Saturday was pretty low-key. My parents took the kids up to the park and spent plenty of time playing with them throughout the day. We had dinner at our house, which I cooked (except Mom helped with the mashed potatoes). And then on Sunday, I skipped church. We went out for brunch instead. Then afterward, we went mattress shopping, and bought Josie a big girl bed (ie twin) and bedding! And by we, I mean my parents bought it, which is totally awesome. Her room looks great now, I think! Anyway, they left Sunday afternoon. All in all it was a really great visit. I just wish they didn't live so far away.
Oh yeah, Sunday was my birthday. I turned 32. It was pretty uneventful. I got some nice gifts from my parents, including a gift card to Archiver's! I can't wait to go shopping! Justin has given me permission to get a pedicure, so I'll take advantage of that soon too. I think I'm finally starting to look my age. I'm noticing more wrinkles on my face and a few grey hairs. Honestly, I don't mind the grey hairs too much unless they're right at the front of my hair line and sticking straight up. Those suckers get plucked out of my head. For now at least, I don't want to pluck myself bald. haha
Justin turns the big 4-0 in February, and I'm working on a big surprise for him. I know he hates the idea of being the center of attention, so I'm not throwing him a party. I've been saving up and earning money on my own to pay for this surprise. I've been baking cookies and bread and selling them to anyone interested. I've also been saving most of my spending money, which hasn't been easy. But between now and the end of February, I should definitely have enough cash for what I'm planning. (I know Justin doesn't read my blog, but I don't want to say exactly what my plans are, just in case.)
I've really been enjoying church lately. The kids are getting better being in service, and hopefully, they're getting a tiny nugget of truth here and there. Another great thing about church is all the friends I have there. And they're not just friends because we hang out, but friends that hold me accountable and pray for me and are good examples of Christ for me. I am so very blessed!
We had "revival services" the week before last, and they were fantastic! I didn't get to go to every one, but the ones I did attend were really awesome. I especially liked one message, which was mostly about rejecting the Holy Spirit. I haven't been moved that much by a sermon in a really long time. I did listen to it later online, and wasn't moved to tears again, but there is a lot of good meat for sure. Here's the sermon, if you're interested in listening to it.
I'm leading a mother's group called Mommies of Blessings, and it's been quite successful so far. I missed the last meeting, since my parents were in town, but the September meeting was awesome. (I can't remember if I blogged about it or not.) There are about 12 or so women that get together once a month to get to know each other better, pray together, and discuss a different topic at each meeting. We're also trying to meet on a different day with our children for a fun activity once a month. I've taken on quite a bit of responsibility preparing for the meetings, but I've learned that it's just as good (if not better) to go with the flow. I'm really looking forward to seeing what God is going to do in and through this group of Christian mommies!
I'm sure there is plenty I could say about my kids right now. But since this is already a pretty long blog, I'll write about them a different day. Hopefully, it won't take me three weeks to blog again. But if it does, assume it means I'm living life to the fullest with my wonderful family! 80)
I'm 17 weeks pregnant. We should be able to find out the sex of the baby soon. I just need to make an appointment for an ultrasound. I've gotten to hear the heartbeat twice, at two different appointments with the midwife. Speaking of midwives, I have a new one this time around. She seems very nice and motherly. I think she'll bring a different dynamic to this next homebirth. I still haven't decided who I want to be here, besides Justin and of course, the midwife. I don't feel like I need a natural birth expert, because I pretty much know what I'm doing. But on the other hand, I don't want nobody to be here (that's a double negative, but I meant it that way haha). I know I'm the one doing the hard work, but it's a very stressful time for Justin, and sometimes he needs to be able to step away for a few minutes. So, I'd like at least one other person to be there, just in case. I'm going to keep thinking and praying about it before I make a final decision. (I jokingly suggested to Justin that I have my three closest friends here while he and their husbands hang out in the backyard. He thought that was a fabulous idea lol.)
My parents came to town last weekend. Well, they were here from Thursday to Sunday. It was a nice, but quick visit. Justin and I and my parents went out to dinner while Alana, Justin's sister, watched the kiddos for a few hours. Then on Friday, while Justin was sleeping, the kids and I went to Brown Deer where my parents' hotel was. We hung out, went to a pumpkin farm/petting zoo, the kids swam in the hotel pool (with Grandma and Grandpa), and then we went out for pizza. It was a very full day! Saturday was pretty low-key. My parents took the kids up to the park and spent plenty of time playing with them throughout the day. We had dinner at our house, which I cooked (except Mom helped with the mashed potatoes). And then on Sunday, I skipped church. We went out for brunch instead. Then afterward, we went mattress shopping, and bought Josie a big girl bed (ie twin) and bedding! And by we, I mean my parents bought it, which is totally awesome. Her room looks great now, I think! Anyway, they left Sunday afternoon. All in all it was a really great visit. I just wish they didn't live so far away.
Oh yeah, Sunday was my birthday. I turned 32. It was pretty uneventful. I got some nice gifts from my parents, including a gift card to Archiver's! I can't wait to go shopping! Justin has given me permission to get a pedicure, so I'll take advantage of that soon too. I think I'm finally starting to look my age. I'm noticing more wrinkles on my face and a few grey hairs. Honestly, I don't mind the grey hairs too much unless they're right at the front of my hair line and sticking straight up. Those suckers get plucked out of my head. For now at least, I don't want to pluck myself bald. haha
Justin turns the big 4-0 in February, and I'm working on a big surprise for him. I know he hates the idea of being the center of attention, so I'm not throwing him a party. I've been saving up and earning money on my own to pay for this surprise. I've been baking cookies and bread and selling them to anyone interested. I've also been saving most of my spending money, which hasn't been easy. But between now and the end of February, I should definitely have enough cash for what I'm planning. (I know Justin doesn't read my blog, but I don't want to say exactly what my plans are, just in case.)
I've really been enjoying church lately. The kids are getting better being in service, and hopefully, they're getting a tiny nugget of truth here and there. Another great thing about church is all the friends I have there. And they're not just friends because we hang out, but friends that hold me accountable and pray for me and are good examples of Christ for me. I am so very blessed!
We had "revival services" the week before last, and they were fantastic! I didn't get to go to every one, but the ones I did attend were really awesome. I especially liked one message, which was mostly about rejecting the Holy Spirit. I haven't been moved that much by a sermon in a really long time. I did listen to it later online, and wasn't moved to tears again, but there is a lot of good meat for sure. Here's the sermon, if you're interested in listening to it.
I'm leading a mother's group called Mommies of Blessings, and it's been quite successful so far. I missed the last meeting, since my parents were in town, but the September meeting was awesome. (I can't remember if I blogged about it or not.) There are about 12 or so women that get together once a month to get to know each other better, pray together, and discuss a different topic at each meeting. We're also trying to meet on a different day with our children for a fun activity once a month. I've taken on quite a bit of responsibility preparing for the meetings, but I've learned that it's just as good (if not better) to go with the flow. I'm really looking forward to seeing what God is going to do in and through this group of Christian mommies!
I'm sure there is plenty I could say about my kids right now. But since this is already a pretty long blog, I'll write about them a different day. Hopefully, it won't take me three weeks to blog again. But if it does, assume it means I'm living life to the fullest with my wonderful family! 80)
Monday, October 3, 2011
Day at the Zoo
We were supposed to go to Swan's Pumpkin Farm today with a bunch of my mommy friends. I was really looking forward to taking the kids on a hay ride, petting the animals at the petting zoo, and picking out pumpkins. But one after another, for various reasons, people started canceling. So, two other moms (Marie and Mo) and our kids went to the zoo instead. It was such a gorgeous day; we couldn't waste it!
I've really enjoyed the zoo with the kids this summer. I brought the wagon today, which is easier to get the kids in and out of than the stroller. I let them have some freedom inside the buildings. They love getting close to the apes, big cats and especially the aquariums. While Josie was looking at a Mandrill (looks like a baboon), he ran up to the glass and hit it. She wasn't sure how to react at first, and then she cried. It didn't take her too long to get over it. I fibbed to her, telling her that he was just saying, "hi," when in reality he was probably being aggressive.
Here's a picture Marie took of us by the giraffes.
All in all it was a great day! Now, we just need to reschedule the trip to the pumpkin farm...
I've really enjoyed the zoo with the kids this summer. I brought the wagon today, which is easier to get the kids in and out of than the stroller. I let them have some freedom inside the buildings. They love getting close to the apes, big cats and especially the aquariums. While Josie was looking at a Mandrill (looks like a baboon), he ran up to the glass and hit it. She wasn't sure how to react at first, and then she cried. It didn't take her too long to get over it. I fibbed to her, telling her that he was just saying, "hi," when in reality he was probably being aggressive.
Here's a picture Marie took of us by the giraffes.
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| Can you believe both kids are looking toward the camera?! |
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
New Baking Adventure
Justin brought home a big butternut squash that one of his coworkers had given him from his garden. I decided that I wanted to do something creative with it, and started searching on Allrecipes.com. I searched for the ingredients "butternut squash (duh) and brown sugar" hoping to find a tasty looking baked good. I came across a recipe for Butternut Squash Braid. It looked a bit challenging, but I decided to make it last night.
First I had to cook the squash. I cut it in half lengthwise, and then scooped out the seeds and pulp. I smeared a little butter on the flesh, placed cut side up in a pan with about 1/2 an inch of water. I baked at 350 for about an hour, until the flesh was pretty tender. Then I mashed up the squash.
I followed the directions precisely, and ended up with a very soft and moist and yummy bread. I decided to make it again today, but this time take pictures. I also made a couple very slight adjustments.
Without further ado, here is the Butternut Squash Braid recipe and instructions:
BUTTERNUT SQUASH BRAID
Ingredients
2 1/4 tsp active dry yeast (or 1 packet)
2 tbsp warm water
1/3 cup warm milk
1 cup cooked, mashed butternut squash
1/4 cup softened butter
1/4 cup brown sugar
1/4 tsp salt
1 1/2 tsp cinnamon (optional)
1 egg
3 cups all-purpose flour
Directions
In a small bowl, mix together the yeast and warm water. (I don't have a food thermometer, so I just turned the hot water on and let it run until it was a nice shower temperature.) The yeast mixture might be a little pasty.
Warm the milk in the microwave or in a small saucepan on the stove. (I used the stove, and frequently checked the temperature of the milk with my finger until it was quite warm. Don't worry, my hands were clean.)
In a large mixing bowl, combine the squash, milk, butter, brown sugar, egg, cinnamon and salt. (I used my Kitchenaid stand mixer.) Then add the yeast mixture and flour. Add more flour as necessary to form a soft (and not too sticky) dough.
Turn onto a floured surface and knead until dough is smooth and elastic, at least 5 minutes.
Put dough in a greased bowl, and turn dough so the top gets greased too. Cover and let rise in a warm place for about an hour. The dough should double in size. Punch dough down.
Divide the dough into thirds. Stretch and roll out each third into an 18 inch rope.
Braid together the dough ropes, and pinch the ends together. Gently move to a greased baking sheet. Cover and let rise for about 30 minutes.
Optional egg wash: In a small bowl, combine an egg and 1 tbsp water. Using a pastry brush, spread all over the braid. You probably won't use it all.
Bake at 350 for 20-25 minutes or until golden brown.
How does it look?
First I had to cook the squash. I cut it in half lengthwise, and then scooped out the seeds and pulp. I smeared a little butter on the flesh, placed cut side up in a pan with about 1/2 an inch of water. I baked at 350 for about an hour, until the flesh was pretty tender. Then I mashed up the squash.
I followed the directions precisely, and ended up with a very soft and moist and yummy bread. I decided to make it again today, but this time take pictures. I also made a couple very slight adjustments.
Without further ado, here is the Butternut Squash Braid recipe and instructions:
BUTTERNUT SQUASH BRAID
Ingredients
2 1/4 tsp active dry yeast (or 1 packet)
2 tbsp warm water
1/3 cup warm milk
1 cup cooked, mashed butternut squash
1/4 cup softened butter
1/4 cup brown sugar
1/4 tsp salt
1 1/2 tsp cinnamon (optional)
1 egg
3 cups all-purpose flour
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| Don't these ingredients look pretty? (Not pictured: yeast, water, milk, cinnamon and salt.) |
In a small bowl, mix together the yeast and warm water. (I don't have a food thermometer, so I just turned the hot water on and let it run until it was a nice shower temperature.) The yeast mixture might be a little pasty.
Warm the milk in the microwave or in a small saucepan on the stove. (I used the stove, and frequently checked the temperature of the milk with my finger until it was quite warm. Don't worry, my hands were clean.)
In a large mixing bowl, combine the squash, milk, butter, brown sugar, egg, cinnamon and salt. (I used my Kitchenaid stand mixer.) Then add the yeast mixture and flour. Add more flour as necessary to form a soft (and not too sticky) dough.
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| The dough was a little sticky, so I added a bit more flour. |
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| Before kneading. |
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| In a greased bowl after kneading. |
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| Ooh bigger. |
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| I think you only need to punch it once. But the dough got sassy, so I showed it who was boss. |
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| From this angle, the back ball looks smaller. Whoops. |
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| 3 ropes, that aren't that even as you can see. |
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| Lovely, isn't it? |
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| Large and lovely. |
Bake at 350 for 20-25 minutes or until golden brown.
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| Yum. |
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| The bread should be soft and moist. |
Saturday, September 24, 2011
Boring...
Sorry I haven't written anything in awhile. Honestly, not much exciting has been going on around these parts.
Deuce is sick right now. He woke up in the middle of the night puking. After I cleaned him up, I brought him to bed with me so I could give him some affection. I'd considered snuggling on the couch, but that would be more of a pain to clean if he upchucked again. Bedsheets are easier to change. He barfed a couple more times, but not since like 8:30. He's been snoozing most of the morning, which I hope is helping him feel better. The way Deuce is feeling and the gross weather outside means we're staying indoors all day. Probably staying in our pajamas too. ;0)
What else? Last weekend we had an awesome first Mommies of Blessings meeting. We had lots of great conversation, and got way behind schedule. I had planned on the the meeting going until 8, and then scrapbooking afterward. The meeting didn't end until around 10:30! Raven, Sarah and I spent the night at church. Even though the pews are padded, they aren't the best for sleeping on. Kim came back in the morning, and Apryl showed up a bit later. We scrapped until about 5. It was a really great time, although I don't have many pages to show for it. I'm a slow scrapper!
I got to hear the baby's heartbeat at my last appointment with my midwife. The kids were with me, and it was cute to have them right by my side. Deuce thought the heartbeat was neat, but I'm pretty sure he had no idea what he was hearing.
In other baby news, Justin and I are still debating on a boy name. I guess I shouldn't say "still" considering that I'm just 12 1/2 weeks pregnant. We've got plenty of time to come up with something. We already have a girl first name picked out, but we're not certain about the middle name yet. I'm sure we'll come to an agreement soon.
Anyway, I better get some lunch made, and then get back to lazing around with my kiddos. Hopefully I'll have something more interesting to write soon.
Deuce is sick right now. He woke up in the middle of the night puking. After I cleaned him up, I brought him to bed with me so I could give him some affection. I'd considered snuggling on the couch, but that would be more of a pain to clean if he upchucked again. Bedsheets are easier to change. He barfed a couple more times, but not since like 8:30. He's been snoozing most of the morning, which I hope is helping him feel better. The way Deuce is feeling and the gross weather outside means we're staying indoors all day. Probably staying in our pajamas too. ;0)
What else? Last weekend we had an awesome first Mommies of Blessings meeting. We had lots of great conversation, and got way behind schedule. I had planned on the the meeting going until 8, and then scrapbooking afterward. The meeting didn't end until around 10:30! Raven, Sarah and I spent the night at church. Even though the pews are padded, they aren't the best for sleeping on. Kim came back in the morning, and Apryl showed up a bit later. We scrapped until about 5. It was a really great time, although I don't have many pages to show for it. I'm a slow scrapper!
I got to hear the baby's heartbeat at my last appointment with my midwife. The kids were with me, and it was cute to have them right by my side. Deuce thought the heartbeat was neat, but I'm pretty sure he had no idea what he was hearing.
In other baby news, Justin and I are still debating on a boy name. I guess I shouldn't say "still" considering that I'm just 12 1/2 weeks pregnant. We've got plenty of time to come up with something. We already have a girl first name picked out, but we're not certain about the middle name yet. I'm sure we'll come to an agreement soon.
Anyway, I better get some lunch made, and then get back to lazing around with my kiddos. Hopefully I'll have something more interesting to write soon.
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Life After Facebook
Sometimes it's hard to believe that I used to be obsessed with Facebook. I honestly hardly think about it anymore. Sure, I do miss some of my friends. And I miss being able to share with people little one liners of my life. Occasionally I miss being out of the loop. But I don't miss those things so much that I would go back. I am so thankful that God removed that desire/burden from my life. I pray that I will continue to be open and willing to give things up if and when He asks me to.
I don't pretend to have this amazing and exciting life since quitting the social network world. In truth, I still spend too much time online. But, I'm thankful that I am less hesitant to get up and play with Josie and Deuce when they want me to. There are times when I have to tell myself, "there is nothing on this computer that is more important than my kids." That lights a fire under my butt and gets me in the living room loving on my kids for sure. We've been going to the library more often (we're gonna go tomorrow!), so we've been reading more books together. I love sitting on the couch with Deuce on my lap and Josie beside me under my arm while I read book after book in the middle of the afternoon.
Recently I've gotten a lot more organized. I developed a weekly cleaning schedule for myself, so I now have certain chores I do each day. I'm a lot more disciplined with how I leave the house when I go to bed too. The house is far from perfect, but I definitely feel better about myself as a wife and a homeowner. Another great thing is that the kids seem to enjoy picking up. We usually sing the song "Clean up clean up everybody everywhere! Clean up clean up everybody do your share!" It's really cute how Deuce will hear toys being thrown into a bin, and he'll rush into the room and start helping. I sure hope it stays with them! I was not very tidy for the first 30 years of my life (although adulthood was definitely better than my teenage years!). I hope I instill in them pride in their belongings and their home. Time will tell!
Things are really up in the air right now with Justin's job. Tomorrow night he is supposed to find out the fate of the USPS Milwaukee Processing and Distribution Center where he works. Many of the plants nationwide are going to be shut down and consolidated in order for the Post Office to save money. If Milwaukee's gets closed, there's a good chance we'd have to move, and there's no guarantee he'd have a job somewhere else! This situation has the potential to be stressful, but I've decided there's no point in worrying about what I can't control. I sure hope we don't have to move, but if it comes to that, we'll manage just fine. But I am still very anxious to find out the news!
This weekend my mother in law is coming to town like she does about every 6 weeks. And then we take full advantage of her and plan as many things as possible. Justin and I are going on a date on Thursday, and then going our separate ways (he will be doing dude bible study while I will be hanging out with a couple of my girls). On Friday evening, I have my first Mommies group meeting of the year, followed by a scrapathon at church that lasts until Saturday at 5. I'll be gone for almost 24 hours! I'm not sure what else I'll be doing that weekend. I'll go to church on Sunday by myself like I previously mentioned. And hopefully we'll get to the zoo on Monday if the weather cooperates.
Okay, that's enough rambling for now. I have a sink full of dishes that I need to wash, and I want to start planning some scrapbooking pages. 80)
I don't pretend to have this amazing and exciting life since quitting the social network world. In truth, I still spend too much time online. But, I'm thankful that I am less hesitant to get up and play with Josie and Deuce when they want me to. There are times when I have to tell myself, "there is nothing on this computer that is more important than my kids." That lights a fire under my butt and gets me in the living room loving on my kids for sure. We've been going to the library more often (we're gonna go tomorrow!), so we've been reading more books together. I love sitting on the couch with Deuce on my lap and Josie beside me under my arm while I read book after book in the middle of the afternoon.
Recently I've gotten a lot more organized. I developed a weekly cleaning schedule for myself, so I now have certain chores I do each day. I'm a lot more disciplined with how I leave the house when I go to bed too. The house is far from perfect, but I definitely feel better about myself as a wife and a homeowner. Another great thing is that the kids seem to enjoy picking up. We usually sing the song "Clean up clean up everybody everywhere! Clean up clean up everybody do your share!" It's really cute how Deuce will hear toys being thrown into a bin, and he'll rush into the room and start helping. I sure hope it stays with them! I was not very tidy for the first 30 years of my life (although adulthood was definitely better than my teenage years!). I hope I instill in them pride in their belongings and their home. Time will tell!
Things are really up in the air right now with Justin's job. Tomorrow night he is supposed to find out the fate of the USPS Milwaukee Processing and Distribution Center where he works. Many of the plants nationwide are going to be shut down and consolidated in order for the Post Office to save money. If Milwaukee's gets closed, there's a good chance we'd have to move, and there's no guarantee he'd have a job somewhere else! This situation has the potential to be stressful, but I've decided there's no point in worrying about what I can't control. I sure hope we don't have to move, but if it comes to that, we'll manage just fine. But I am still very anxious to find out the news!
This weekend my mother in law is coming to town like she does about every 6 weeks. And then we take full advantage of her and plan as many things as possible. Justin and I are going on a date on Thursday, and then going our separate ways (he will be doing dude bible study while I will be hanging out with a couple of my girls). On Friday evening, I have my first Mommies group meeting of the year, followed by a scrapathon at church that lasts until Saturday at 5. I'll be gone for almost 24 hours! I'm not sure what else I'll be doing that weekend. I'll go to church on Sunday by myself like I previously mentioned. And hopefully we'll get to the zoo on Monday if the weather cooperates.
Okay, that's enough rambling for now. I have a sink full of dishes that I need to wash, and I want to start planning some scrapbooking pages. 80)
Some Pictures
My sister-in-law, Lindsay took some photos of us in late July. Here are just a few of the favorites:
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| Josie & Grandpa Jones |
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| Waldo |
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Babies and Church = Oil and Water?
We don't have Sunday nursery available at my church. Mind you, I lobbied for one, but to no avail. Depending on the day and the behavior of my children, my opinion on the matter varies. Some days I understand the idea of family integrated church and think it's a good one. Today, I don't have the best attitude about it. I don't get why it's more valuable to have kids in service. It's not like my kids are sitting quietly, listening to the testimonies and the sermon, and praying. They're playing with their toys, reading books, eating snacks, and sometimes whining/crying. Before I would keep the kids in service until they got out of hand, and then I would take them down to the nursery. There's a speaker down there, so I might get to hear snippets of the sermon.
Anyway, since I know that they will not appease the parents of small children with a scheduled nursery service, I don't take my kids down there. I keep them in the pew with me, and I try to keep them entertained and quiet as much as possible. Today they made a lot of noise. Of course I did my best to get them to be quiet, but I've decided that I'm not going to take them out of service if they cry. If they want kids in the service so badly, then they get noisy, crying ones too. ;0)
I go back and forth about the value of having little kids in service. How much are they gaining spiritually by being there, and how much am I losing spiritually by dealing with them instead of focusing on the Lord? Personally, I don't think it's a net gain. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to be able keep my eyes closed during the worship songs, read from my bible and take notes during the sermon, and respond to an altar call. But I can't do any of that, because I always have to be partially focused on my kids. At the same time, I understand that it's a good opportunity for them to learn to be quiet and behave. I also think that the earlier kids are exposed to the Gospel the better. Plus, I'm sure it's supposed to be an opportunity for me to put the fruits of the Spirit into practice.
This too shall pass, right?
Well, at least next Sunday will be a great service! Grandma Jones is in town, so I get to go to church by myself! And there's fellowship lunch afterwards that I will actually get to enjoy, and probably share some adult conversation! So, I'm excited about that. ;0)
Anyway, since I know that they will not appease the parents of small children with a scheduled nursery service, I don't take my kids down there. I keep them in the pew with me, and I try to keep them entertained and quiet as much as possible. Today they made a lot of noise. Of course I did my best to get them to be quiet, but I've decided that I'm not going to take them out of service if they cry. If they want kids in the service so badly, then they get noisy, crying ones too. ;0)
I go back and forth about the value of having little kids in service. How much are they gaining spiritually by being there, and how much am I losing spiritually by dealing with them instead of focusing on the Lord? Personally, I don't think it's a net gain. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to be able keep my eyes closed during the worship songs, read from my bible and take notes during the sermon, and respond to an altar call. But I can't do any of that, because I always have to be partially focused on my kids. At the same time, I understand that it's a good opportunity for them to learn to be quiet and behave. I also think that the earlier kids are exposed to the Gospel the better. Plus, I'm sure it's supposed to be an opportunity for me to put the fruits of the Spirit into practice.
This too shall pass, right?
Well, at least next Sunday will be a great service! Grandma Jones is in town, so I get to go to church by myself! And there's fellowship lunch afterwards that I will actually get to enjoy, and probably share some adult conversation! So, I'm excited about that. ;0)
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Abiding in the Vine: A Study of John 15:1-8 (Verse 8)
John 15:1-8
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Verse 8: This is to my Father's glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Finally we are given a main objective: Bring glory to the Father. That's the whole point of bearing fruit! When we bear good fruit, we resemble Jesus. And Jesus brings glory to God. (If A = B and B = C then A = C)
Like I've said before, anyone can profess to know and love Christ. Only those who bear fruit are true disciples of Him. Only those who bear fruit are truly saved. Now, don't misunderstand what I'm saying. The belief and the profession come before the fruit. The fruit (or works or behavior) do not save. But our works prove that we are saved.
Ephesians 2:8-10 - For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
James discusses faith and deeds in James 2:14-26. A few verses stand out more than others:
Verse 14 - What good is it, my brothers, if a man claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save him?
Verse 18 - But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by what I do.
Verse 24 - You see that a person is justified by what he does and not by faith alone.
Verse 26 - As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.
I don't know about you, but I want to spiritually look like Christ. When I stand (kneel/prostate myself?) before the LORD, I want Him to see His Son, not only in my words, but also in my actions. I know that I have failed to exemplify Christ in more ways than I can count. But I pray that as I continue my Christian walk, I will keep close the words of Jesus telling me to bear much fruit so that I can SHOW that I am His disciple.
I pray also that you would remain in Christ. Be connected to Him through prayer and the reading of the word; and most importantly, live your life as a testimony of what God has done for you.
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Verse 8: This is to my Father's glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Finally we are given a main objective: Bring glory to the Father. That's the whole point of bearing fruit! When we bear good fruit, we resemble Jesus. And Jesus brings glory to God. (If A = B and B = C then A = C)
Like I've said before, anyone can profess to know and love Christ. Only those who bear fruit are true disciples of Him. Only those who bear fruit are truly saved. Now, don't misunderstand what I'm saying. The belief and the profession come before the fruit. The fruit (or works or behavior) do not save. But our works prove that we are saved.
Ephesians 2:8-10 - For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
James discusses faith and deeds in James 2:14-26. A few verses stand out more than others:
Verse 14 - What good is it, my brothers, if a man claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save him?
Verse 18 - But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by what I do.
Verse 24 - You see that a person is justified by what he does and not by faith alone.
Verse 26 - As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.
I don't know about you, but I want to spiritually look like Christ. When I stand (kneel/prostate myself?) before the LORD, I want Him to see His Son, not only in my words, but also in my actions. I know that I have failed to exemplify Christ in more ways than I can count. But I pray that as I continue my Christian walk, I will keep close the words of Jesus telling me to bear much fruit so that I can SHOW that I am His disciple.
I pray also that you would remain in Christ. Be connected to Him through prayer and the reading of the word; and most importantly, live your life as a testimony of what God has done for you.
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
BTW
For those who don't already know, we're expecting baby #3. I'm 10 weeks along today.
Okay, carry on. ;0)
Okay, carry on. ;0)
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Abiding in Christ: A Study on John 15:1-8 (Verse 7)
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Verse 6 - If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you.
Jesus says again that we need to remain in Him. We have to understand how important this is. We cannot expect God to answer our prayers if we are not abiding in His Son. God isn't satisfied with a little visit now and then. CEO (Christmas and Easter Only) "Christians" are not going to cut it. But then again, those who go to church and Sunday school and Bible studies regularly aren't necessarily abiding in Christ either. (Although, I think it's more likely than someone who doesn't make that same effort.) What matters is your heart and the fruit. By that I mean, if you are truly abiding in Christ, then your heart is going to change. And that change is going to affect how you live your life.
It's easy to say, "I'm a Christian." It's a lot harder to prove it.
Not only does Jesus say we have to remain in Him, but His words also need to remain in us. I think you can interpret "my words" as both the actual words Jesus spoke to His disciples and the Bible in its entirety.
I am reminded of the parable of the sower in Matthew 13:
James 1:21 says, "Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says."
God's word surely does not dwell in our hearts if we are not changed by it. If we can read the Bible and not be compelled to be more like Jesus, then we've missed the point.
The next part of the verse is a little more difficult to understand. Jesus says that if we abide in Him and His words in us, He will give us whatever we ask. It's difficult especially in light of "unanswered" prayers. We know that God's ways and thoughts are higher than ours. And He knows what is best for us. Also, in other verses, Jesus says, "Whatever you ask in my name..." So, even though He doesn't say that here, I believe that when we pray, we always have to do so according to the will of the Father. If the word truly lives in our hearts, then we're going to ask things according to His will. And if we ask according to God's will, He is going to answer our prayers.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Verse 6 - If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you.
Jesus says again that we need to remain in Him. We have to understand how important this is. We cannot expect God to answer our prayers if we are not abiding in His Son. God isn't satisfied with a little visit now and then. CEO (Christmas and Easter Only) "Christians" are not going to cut it. But then again, those who go to church and Sunday school and Bible studies regularly aren't necessarily abiding in Christ either. (Although, I think it's more likely than someone who doesn't make that same effort.) What matters is your heart and the fruit. By that I mean, if you are truly abiding in Christ, then your heart is going to change. And that change is going to affect how you live your life.
It's easy to say, "I'm a Christian." It's a lot harder to prove it.
Not only does Jesus say we have to remain in Him, but His words also need to remain in us. I think you can interpret "my words" as both the actual words Jesus spoke to His disciples and the Bible in its entirety.
I am reminded of the parable of the sower in Matthew 13:
“A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.I think this is a great example of the differences between merely hearing the word and allowing it to fully penetrate your heart. When we read the Bible with the intention of understanding it and being more like Christ, that is when it starts to abide in us.
“Listen then to what the parable of the sower means: When anyone hears the message about the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what was sown in his heart. This is the seed sown along the path. The one who received the seed that fell on rocky places is the man who hears the word and at once receives it with joy. But since he has no root, he lasts only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, he quickly falls away. The one who received the seed that fell among the thorns is the man who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke it, making it unfruitful. But the one who received the seed that fell on good soil is the man who hears the word and understands it. He produces a crop, yielding a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.”
James 1:21 says, "Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says."
God's word surely does not dwell in our hearts if we are not changed by it. If we can read the Bible and not be compelled to be more like Jesus, then we've missed the point.
The next part of the verse is a little more difficult to understand. Jesus says that if we abide in Him and His words in us, He will give us whatever we ask. It's difficult especially in light of "unanswered" prayers. We know that God's ways and thoughts are higher than ours. And He knows what is best for us. Also, in other verses, Jesus says, "Whatever you ask in my name..." So, even though He doesn't say that here, I believe that when we pray, we always have to do so according to the will of the Father. If the word truly lives in our hearts, then we're going to ask things according to His will. And if we ask according to God's will, He is going to answer our prayers.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Your Gonna Like These Grammer Fail's
Some people may accuse me of being a spelling and grammar Nazi. I don't think I'm that bad. I know that I make mistakes, but the difference is that I care when I do. I believe that proper language skills are important, and if we keep up the "well as long as you get my drift, it doesn't matter" excuse, subsequent generations will just get dumber.
I think most people reading the above subject would understand what I'm saying. Unfortunately many probably wouldn't see all or any of the glaring mistakes. So, now I'm going to talk about my biggest grammar pet peeves.
- I hate when people don't know the difference between a noun and a verb.
Affect is always a verb; effect is always a noun. The "cause" affects the effect.
An altar is a raised platform, and is a noun. Alter means to change, and is a verb.
Breath is the air that you inhale, and therefore a noun. Breathe is the act of inhaling and exhaling, and therefore a verb.
I'm sure there are other ones, but these came to my mind first.
- I hate when people don't know the difference between a contraction and a possessive noun.
It's difficult to overlook all of its mistakes. If you want to say "it is" then use the contraction. If you want to refer to something that belongs to "it," use the possessive.
They're butchering their own language over there. They're is the contraction of they are. Their is possessive. And there is a place.
- I hate that apostrophes are atrociously abused.
As far as I know, there are 3 reasons to use an apostrophe:
1. You use an apostrophe when letters are missing, such as in a contraction.
2. You use an apostrophe when a noun - not a pronoun - is possessive.
3. You use apostrophes when you're writing a quotation within a quotation.
- I hate that so many people don't know the difference between lose and loose.
Just because I have grammar and spelling pet peeves doesn't mean that I'm perfect. There are some grammatical rules that still baffle me. I know that I mess up commas and quotation marks sometimes. And I've been known to use incorrect words from time to time. In fact, I just found out in the last several weeks that "snuck" isn't a word! That's pretty pathetic on my part.
Okay. That's enough about grammar. I could go on and on, but I won't. Besides, I probably have two readers that even have similar frustrations.
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Forgiveness
I am not a bitter person. I rarely hold grudges, and I don't have a hard time forgiving people. A few weeks ago someone annoyed me to no end, and he knew it. About a week later he asked me if we were cool. I looked at him, totally clueless. When he reminded me, I was like, "Oh yeah. I forgot all about that." It's not that I forgive because I'm a better person (I'm not); I just know what it feels like when I choose not to forgive.
I remember hearing "there is freedom in forgiveness and bondage in bitterness." That is so true. Some might feel that the offending party doesn't deserve to be forgiven. Those are the ones that don't realize that forgiveness is not for the one who sinned and repented; forgiveness is for the one who was sinned against.
There are people who still harbor unforgiveness toward me, even after I repented and attempted reconciliation multiple times. I know I'm not perfect, and I've hurt people. But I know that God commands us to forgive those who repent - even if they sin seven times against you in the same day! And Jesus said to forgive seventy-seven times! Knowing that there is unforgiveness toward me doesn't make me angry or sad for myself. It makes me sad for them. Why would anyone choose to walk in bondage when they could have freedom through forgiveness?!
Aside from the feelings of angst and heaviness and emotional baggage that unforgiveness and bitterness cause, God commands us to forgive each other. It is not an option. God's word is very clear about His stance.
Matthew 6:14-15 - For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Matthew 18:21-35
Colossians 3:13 - Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
So, if you're holding onto a grudge against someone for a wrong they committed, I encourage you to ask God for strength to forgive them. You're worth it to be completely free of the bondage that comes from the sin of unforgiveness.
I remember hearing "there is freedom in forgiveness and bondage in bitterness." That is so true. Some might feel that the offending party doesn't deserve to be forgiven. Those are the ones that don't realize that forgiveness is not for the one who sinned and repented; forgiveness is for the one who was sinned against.
There are people who still harbor unforgiveness toward me, even after I repented and attempted reconciliation multiple times. I know I'm not perfect, and I've hurt people. But I know that God commands us to forgive those who repent - even if they sin seven times against you in the same day! And Jesus said to forgive seventy-seven times! Knowing that there is unforgiveness toward me doesn't make me angry or sad for myself. It makes me sad for them. Why would anyone choose to walk in bondage when they could have freedom through forgiveness?!
Aside from the feelings of angst and heaviness and emotional baggage that unforgiveness and bitterness cause, God commands us to forgive each other. It is not an option. God's word is very clear about His stance.
Matthew 6:14-15 - For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Matthew 18:21-35
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”
Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.
“Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.
“The servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.
“But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.
“His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’
“But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened.
“Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.
“This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart.”Luke 17:3-4 - “If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. 4 If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, ‘I repent,’ forgive him.”
Colossians 3:13 - Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
So, if you're holding onto a grudge against someone for a wrong they committed, I encourage you to ask God for strength to forgive them. You're worth it to be completely free of the bondage that comes from the sin of unforgiveness.
Monday, August 22, 2011
Abiding in Christ: A Study on John 15:1-8 (Verse 6)
John 15:1-8
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Verse 6: If anyone does not remain in me, he like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned.
What is our purpose? It is not to be happy or successful or wealthy or intelligent. Our purpose is to glorify God. If we are apart from Christ, we cannot glorify God. We are found worthy only when Christ is in us. He alone makes us worthy of Heaven. Those who do not abide in Christ are incapable of bringing glory to God, and are therefore worthless.
I think about so many people who find worth in themselves, in their achievements and abilities, in their wealth and socioeconomic status. They do not realize that they are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked (Revelation 3:17) in God's eyes. No matter how smart or rich or powerful someone might seem, without Christ, he cannot please God. And there are no amount of good works that we could do that would make God invite us into His Kingdom.
Isaiah 64:6: - All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags;
we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.
Romans 3:22-24 - This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
So, what is "the fire" that Jesus is talking about? Remember that He is talking to His disciples, who are currently abiding in Him. If you believe that a saved person can walk away from the Lord, then the fire is hell. If you don't believe that a saved person can give up their salvation, then the fire could be like the one referred to in 1 Corinthians 3:13-15 - his work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each man’s work. If what he has built survives, he will receive his reward. If it is burned up, he will suffer loss; he himself will be saved, but only as one escaping through the flames.
It's a difficult, if not impossible, question to answer. Maybe I'll do some research and blog about whether or not salvation can be lost. In the meantime, be convinced in your own mind of what you believe (Romans 14-5b) and keep abiding in Christ!
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Verse 6: If anyone does not remain in me, he like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned.
What is our purpose? It is not to be happy or successful or wealthy or intelligent. Our purpose is to glorify God. If we are apart from Christ, we cannot glorify God. We are found worthy only when Christ is in us. He alone makes us worthy of Heaven. Those who do not abide in Christ are incapable of bringing glory to God, and are therefore worthless.
I think about so many people who find worth in themselves, in their achievements and abilities, in their wealth and socioeconomic status. They do not realize that they are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked (Revelation 3:17) in God's eyes. No matter how smart or rich or powerful someone might seem, without Christ, he cannot please God. And there are no amount of good works that we could do that would make God invite us into His Kingdom.
Isaiah 64:6: - All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags;
we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.
Romans 3:22-24 - This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
So, what is "the fire" that Jesus is talking about? Remember that He is talking to His disciples, who are currently abiding in Him. If you believe that a saved person can walk away from the Lord, then the fire is hell. If you don't believe that a saved person can give up their salvation, then the fire could be like the one referred to in 1 Corinthians 3:13-15 - his work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each man’s work. If what he has built survives, he will receive his reward. If it is burned up, he will suffer loss; he himself will be saved, but only as one escaping through the flames.
It's a difficult, if not impossible, question to answer. Maybe I'll do some research and blog about whether or not salvation can be lost. In the meantime, be convinced in your own mind of what you believe (Romans 14-5b) and keep abiding in Christ!
Thursday, August 18, 2011
It's Potty Time!
Eight days ago I started potty training Josie. Three is probably a little old to start potty training a child, but I really don't think she showed a lot of indications that she was ready. Although, as soon as I got a potty, she started showing interest. So, maybe if I'd gotten that earlier, things would be different. But that's irrelevant since I can't turn back time and do thing differently.
Overall, she's been doing a pretty good job (with #1 at least). Last Wednesday I began the process by having Josie go bottomless. I had several old towels and some Resolve on hand for the accidents I knew she would have. I also put a garbage bag and towel on the couch for when she sat. It really didn't take her long to figure out that she needed to pee in the potty. And before long, she was running to the bathroom all by herself without my assistance.
By the time Saturday came around, I was ready to go to the next level, and put undies on her. This has proven to be a bit more difficult since she doesn't seem to understand that she needs to take them off before she starts peeing. I have to keep my eye on her, because she'll often run full speed to the bathroom and sit down causing me to run after her and hopefully get her undies off before she starts going. Sometimes I'm successful and sometimes I'm a little late. And sometimes I don't even realize that she ran to the bathroom and she empties her bladder in her underoos while sitting on the potty. It's a bit puzzling why this seems normal to her, because it would certainly feel strange to me! But then, so would pooping in the living room.
Yes, I am learning that the poop aspect of potty training is a little more difficult than the pee. I've read that some little kids don't understand the sensation of having to go while others are afraid to. I think Josie falls into both of those categories. I've cleaned up more than my fair share of poop this last week and thrown several pairs of ruined undies away. Yes, I know I could attempt to clean the soiled underwear, but if you were me, you'd throw them away too. My daughter doesn't have a normal digestive system. At least it doesn't seem normal based on what comes out the other end. She almost always scores a 3 or 4 on the Rectal Deposit Scale (if 1 is water and 10 is rock), and therefore, her samples are usually pretty messy. We've been to several different types of doctors (including a pediatric gastroenterologist), and had many tests done, all that said she was "fine." Okay, enough talking about my daughter's poop issues, since none of you really care anyway. I'm hoping that she starts to understand what's going on in her body soon. Bowel control is generally a good goal to achieve.
The hardest part about potty training, for me, is the seclusion. Granted, I could take her wherever and just deal with the consequences, but I'd rather not add that kind of stress to my life. This past Tuesday was the first time out of the house. We went to Josie's speech therapy appointment, which is about 30 minutes away. She made it there with no problems, and most of the way through her session. But with about 10 or so minutes left, she started dancing, and her therapist brought her out of the room to me. And then we spent nearly the next hour in the bathroom stall. She had let some pee out in her her undies and shorts, so I took those off. I knew she had to go more based on the dancing and the grabbing. She'd never gone on a big potty, and I think it was a little scary for her. After about 40 minutes or so, she finally succumbed and peed in the toilet. Whew! I got her cleaned up and dressed, and then she started dancing again. Another 15 minutes went by before I finally got her to go poop in the toilet. It wasn't my idea of fun, but I knew I wasn't going to let her pee and/or poop in her carseat. I had a lot of patience and determination that day. I was not going to let her win, and I didn't!
Yesterday, we went to our friend's house for a play date. It wasn't very successful. I brought her potty, but she didn't use it once. She used her underwear twice instead. I'm not sure if she was just too distracted by her friends or what. I'm not sure when our next social outing will be. Wherever it is, it needs to be close to a potty, and I need to have extra undies and clothes with me at all times!
I know that this too shall pass. One day I'll be looking at much younger moms going through this, and I'll say, "I know what you're going through, and I'm so glad it's not me." Yes, someday I'll say that.
Overall, she's been doing a pretty good job (with #1 at least). Last Wednesday I began the process by having Josie go bottomless. I had several old towels and some Resolve on hand for the accidents I knew she would have. I also put a garbage bag and towel on the couch for when she sat. It really didn't take her long to figure out that she needed to pee in the potty. And before long, she was running to the bathroom all by herself without my assistance.
By the time Saturday came around, I was ready to go to the next level, and put undies on her. This has proven to be a bit more difficult since she doesn't seem to understand that she needs to take them off before she starts peeing. I have to keep my eye on her, because she'll often run full speed to the bathroom and sit down causing me to run after her and hopefully get her undies off before she starts going. Sometimes I'm successful and sometimes I'm a little late. And sometimes I don't even realize that she ran to the bathroom and she empties her bladder in her underoos while sitting on the potty. It's a bit puzzling why this seems normal to her, because it would certainly feel strange to me! But then, so would pooping in the living room.
Yes, I am learning that the poop aspect of potty training is a little more difficult than the pee. I've read that some little kids don't understand the sensation of having to go while others are afraid to. I think Josie falls into both of those categories. I've cleaned up more than my fair share of poop this last week and thrown several pairs of ruined undies away. Yes, I know I could attempt to clean the soiled underwear, but if you were me, you'd throw them away too. My daughter doesn't have a normal digestive system. At least it doesn't seem normal based on what comes out the other end. She almost always scores a 3 or 4 on the Rectal Deposit Scale (if 1 is water and 10 is rock), and therefore, her samples are usually pretty messy. We've been to several different types of doctors (including a pediatric gastroenterologist), and had many tests done, all that said she was "fine." Okay, enough talking about my daughter's poop issues, since none of you really care anyway. I'm hoping that she starts to understand what's going on in her body soon. Bowel control is generally a good goal to achieve.
The hardest part about potty training, for me, is the seclusion. Granted, I could take her wherever and just deal with the consequences, but I'd rather not add that kind of stress to my life. This past Tuesday was the first time out of the house. We went to Josie's speech therapy appointment, which is about 30 minutes away. She made it there with no problems, and most of the way through her session. But with about 10 or so minutes left, she started dancing, and her therapist brought her out of the room to me. And then we spent nearly the next hour in the bathroom stall. She had let some pee out in her her undies and shorts, so I took those off. I knew she had to go more based on the dancing and the grabbing. She'd never gone on a big potty, and I think it was a little scary for her. After about 40 minutes or so, she finally succumbed and peed in the toilet. Whew! I got her cleaned up and dressed, and then she started dancing again. Another 15 minutes went by before I finally got her to go poop in the toilet. It wasn't my idea of fun, but I knew I wasn't going to let her pee and/or poop in her carseat. I had a lot of patience and determination that day. I was not going to let her win, and I didn't!
Yesterday, we went to our friend's house for a play date. It wasn't very successful. I brought her potty, but she didn't use it once. She used her underwear twice instead. I'm not sure if she was just too distracted by her friends or what. I'm not sure when our next social outing will be. Wherever it is, it needs to be close to a potty, and I need to have extra undies and clothes with me at all times!
I know that this too shall pass. One day I'll be looking at much younger moms going through this, and I'll say, "I know what you're going through, and I'm so glad it's not me." Yes, someday I'll say that.
Abiding in Christ: A Study on John 15:1-8 (Verse 5)
John 15:1-8
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Verse 5: I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.
Again, Jesus says that He is the vine, and we are the branches. We know that branches that are not connected to the vine will die. Therefore, we must abide in Jesus in order to survive. . He must be the center and the focus of our lives. We need to spend time with Him, giving Him the attention that He deserves. James 4:8a says "Come near to God and He will come near to you." The Lord wants to commune with us, to have an intimate friendship with us, but He allows us to make the first step.
I am reminded of the story of the prodigal son, specifically the part where the son is on his way home.
Luke 15:20 - So he got up and went to his father.
“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.
You see, the son simply had to humble himself and turn back to the father, and he came to meet him with outstretched arms. The same is true for us and our Father. God knows that we're never going to get it all right all the time. If that were the case, there would've been no need for a Savior. Instead, He sees our broken and contrite hearts, our humility and godly sorrow, which leads to repentance. He sees that we've turned our hearts (back) to Him, and He's ready to embrace us.
When we are abiding in Christ, we will bear much fruit. The more connected we are to Him, the more we are going to resemble Him by our actions. If Jesus is truly the center of our lives, it's going to be so obvious to everyone around us. We're going to love people that otherwise seem unlovable; we're going to have a joy that makes no sense; we're going to have peace that surpasses understanding; we're going to be patient in ways that never seemed possible; we're going to be kind in unexpected situations; we're going to be good when it would be easier to sin; we're going to be faithful when everyone around says, "that's impossible;" we're going to show gentleness when our flesh wants to be rough; we're going to have self-control when it would be "more fun" to be undisciplined.
The "apart from me you will do nothing" portion of this verse is the one I'm not too sure about. Does Jesus mean that we can literally do nothing without Him? Or is he saying that we can't bear fruit without Him? In the context of this passage, I think the latter makes more sense. Of course branches that are not connected to the vine cannot bear fruit. Likewise for us and our connection to Christ. I don't think that the fruit Jesus is referring to is just our good works, but also our proof of life. If we don't bear fruit, we might as well be dead.
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Verse 5: I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.
Again, Jesus says that He is the vine, and we are the branches. We know that branches that are not connected to the vine will die. Therefore, we must abide in Jesus in order to survive. . He must be the center and the focus of our lives. We need to spend time with Him, giving Him the attention that He deserves. James 4:8a says "Come near to God and He will come near to you." The Lord wants to commune with us, to have an intimate friendship with us, but He allows us to make the first step.
I am reminded of the story of the prodigal son, specifically the part where the son is on his way home.
Luke 15:20 - So he got up and went to his father.
“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.
You see, the son simply had to humble himself and turn back to the father, and he came to meet him with outstretched arms. The same is true for us and our Father. God knows that we're never going to get it all right all the time. If that were the case, there would've been no need for a Savior. Instead, He sees our broken and contrite hearts, our humility and godly sorrow, which leads to repentance. He sees that we've turned our hearts (back) to Him, and He's ready to embrace us.
When we are abiding in Christ, we will bear much fruit. The more connected we are to Him, the more we are going to resemble Him by our actions. If Jesus is truly the center of our lives, it's going to be so obvious to everyone around us. We're going to love people that otherwise seem unlovable; we're going to have a joy that makes no sense; we're going to have peace that surpasses understanding; we're going to be patient in ways that never seemed possible; we're going to be kind in unexpected situations; we're going to be good when it would be easier to sin; we're going to be faithful when everyone around says, "that's impossible;" we're going to show gentleness when our flesh wants to be rough; we're going to have self-control when it would be "more fun" to be undisciplined.
The "apart from me you will do nothing" portion of this verse is the one I'm not too sure about. Does Jesus mean that we can literally do nothing without Him? Or is he saying that we can't bear fruit without Him? In the context of this passage, I think the latter makes more sense. Of course branches that are not connected to the vine cannot bear fruit. Likewise for us and our connection to Christ. I don't think that the fruit Jesus is referring to is just our good works, but also our proof of life. If we don't bear fruit, we might as well be dead.
Sunday, August 14, 2011
God, Are You Cozy?
I read an article about the faith of Bear Grylls (he's the star of Man vs Wild in case you didn't know) last night. His faith is very simple and childlike. You can read all about it here. In the article he said something that really moved me: "One of the big questions I asked was that, you know, 'If you do exist, are you cozy? Are you what my heart aches for?'"
I think the reason I like that quote so much is because I could see myself saying it. God, I'm lonely and afraid and hurt... Can I sit with you for awhile? Will you wrap your arms around me? Will you whisper my name and tell me you love me? Will you be my friend? Will you help me through this situation? Will you love me, even though I... ? And I know the answer to every one of those questions is always yes.
There are so many people who are aching for something - Someone - to fill the emptiness in their lives. They certainly don't want religion or church politics or denominations or doctrines . Nobody who longs for supernatural love wakes up one day and says, "you know what would make me whole? A good debate about Calvinism and Arminianism." No, they want to be held and loved and forgiven. They want to know that God is there for them. I think Christians complicate the things of God, both for ourselves and for those who are seeking. We need to get back to the profound simplicity of the love of (and for) Christ.
So, is God cozy? Here are some verses that might answer that question.
Romans 2:4b - God's kindness leads you toward repentance.
Jeremiah 31 - "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness"
Deuteronomy 31:8 - The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.
Psalm 139:7-10 - Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.
Matthew 11:28-29 - “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
Psalm 86:15 - But you, O Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 - Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
Hebrews 4:14 - Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
Isaiah 66:13a - As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you;
These are only a few verses describing God's love, compassion, kindness, comfort and grace. I know that when I need a lap to crawl onto, that God's is available. And for that, I am so thankful. He is indeed what my heart aches for.
I think the reason I like that quote so much is because I could see myself saying it. God, I'm lonely and afraid and hurt... Can I sit with you for awhile? Will you wrap your arms around me? Will you whisper my name and tell me you love me? Will you be my friend? Will you help me through this situation? Will you love me, even though I... ? And I know the answer to every one of those questions is always yes.
There are so many people who are aching for something - Someone - to fill the emptiness in their lives. They certainly don't want religion or church politics or denominations or doctrines . Nobody who longs for supernatural love wakes up one day and says, "you know what would make me whole? A good debate about Calvinism and Arminianism." No, they want to be held and loved and forgiven. They want to know that God is there for them. I think Christians complicate the things of God, both for ourselves and for those who are seeking. We need to get back to the profound simplicity of the love of (and for) Christ.
So, is God cozy? Here are some verses that might answer that question.
Romans 2:4b - God's kindness leads you toward repentance.
Jeremiah 31 - "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness"
Deuteronomy 31:8 - The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.
Psalm 139:7-10 - Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.
Matthew 11:28-29 - “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
Psalm 86:15 - But you, O Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 - Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
Hebrews 4:14 - Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
Isaiah 66:13a - As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you;
These are only a few verses describing God's love, compassion, kindness, comfort and grace. I know that when I need a lap to crawl onto, that God's is available. And for that, I am so thankful. He is indeed what my heart aches for.
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Abiding in Christ: A Study on John 15:1-8 (Verse 4)
John 15:1-8
In other versions, the word abide is used instead of remain, but they essentially mean the same thing: to continue to be present. Visiting is not the same as abiding. Abiding is staying put, lingering, waiting. Abide in Christ and He will abide in you. In verse 10 we are told how to remain in Christ: Obey His commands.
Another way to understand that verse is instead of the word "obey" use the word "keep," which means to guard, to attend to carefully or take care of. Yes, we are called to obey His commands, but perhaps when we put pressure on ourselves to always to be perfect, when that's not possible. Instead, let us remember how valuable God's word is, and desire to keep His commandments, because we love Him, and want to bring Him honor - not because we want to prove how good we are.
Let us take great care of the commandments of Jesus: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these." ~ Mark 12:30-31. That is, let us show God and others how precious His word is to us, by doing what it says.
The more we desire to glorify God, the more we want to obey Christ, the more time we spend with Him, the more time He spends with us (James 4:8a: Come near to God and he will come near to you.). And the cycle repeats.
No branch can bear fruit by itself. Grapes only grow on a branch because the branch is connected to the vine. It is impossible for fruit to spontaneous appear on a random branch on the ground. The same is true of us. We cannot expect to bear fruit if we are not connected to Jesus. It all seems so simple. So why do so many "Christians" struggle with this concept?
It seems like so many people do all sorts of things in Christ's Name, but they never learned how to abide in Him. Just because a person goes to church does not mean he is abiding in Christ and obeying His commands. If you think church attendance is all that's required to get into heaven, you should consider Matthew 7:21-23.
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.Verse 4: Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
In other versions, the word abide is used instead of remain, but they essentially mean the same thing: to continue to be present. Visiting is not the same as abiding. Abiding is staying put, lingering, waiting. Abide in Christ and He will abide in you. In verse 10 we are told how to remain in Christ: Obey His commands.
Another way to understand that verse is instead of the word "obey" use the word "keep," which means to guard, to attend to carefully or take care of. Yes, we are called to obey His commands, but perhaps when we put pressure on ourselves to always to be perfect, when that's not possible. Instead, let us remember how valuable God's word is, and desire to keep His commandments, because we love Him, and want to bring Him honor - not because we want to prove how good we are.
Let us take great care of the commandments of Jesus: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these." ~ Mark 12:30-31. That is, let us show God and others how precious His word is to us, by doing what it says.
The more we desire to glorify God, the more we want to obey Christ, the more time we spend with Him, the more time He spends with us (James 4:8a: Come near to God and he will come near to you.). And the cycle repeats.
No branch can bear fruit by itself. Grapes only grow on a branch because the branch is connected to the vine. It is impossible for fruit to spontaneous appear on a random branch on the ground. The same is true of us. We cannot expect to bear fruit if we are not connected to Jesus. It all seems so simple. So why do so many "Christians" struggle with this concept?
It seems like so many people do all sorts of things in Christ's Name, but they never learned how to abide in Him. Just because a person goes to church does not mean he is abiding in Christ and obeying His commands. If you think church attendance is all that's required to get into heaven, you should consider Matthew 7:21-23.
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and in your name drive out demons and perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’If you want Jesus to recognize you, then you have to remain in Him and His word. Obey His commands. Live in a way that glorifies Christ.
Sunday, August 7, 2011
Happy Birthday Josie! (3 days late)
Josie turned 3 years old on Friday. I can't believe how fast the time has gone! We celebrated her birthday with lots of friends yesterday evening. I had a busy day getting ready for the party and it felt like everything went wrong. I ruined the cupcakes, forgot to buy the ice cream, and ran out of sugar for the cookies, just to name a few examples. Kim saved the day by offering to make and bring the cupcakes; Justin went out to the store and bought some ice cream, and we just managed to survive without my amazing chocolate chip cookies. haha. But despite all the little mishaps before the party, everything went smashingly when the guests arrived. All in all there were 15 adults and 18 kids (and 1 little baby that just hung out with his mama) crammed into our little backyard! The kids seemed to have a blast running around, playing on the slide, playing bag toss, and sampling as many cupcakes as possible throughout the night. The grownups spent the night either hanging out or disciplining their kids haha. Justin started a fire in our fire pit table thing, which kept the mosquitoes at bay, and provided some nice ambiance. Josie didn't seem to like when we sang "Happy Birthday." She cried! I think it was a little scary having so much loud (and obnoxious haha) attention on her! Most of the moms and kids left before 10, because of the kids' bedtimes. All the guys stayed later, but 3 of the guys - Aaron, Tyler and Jeremy - stayed until 1am playing a game with Justin. Meanwhile, I snoozed on the couch. I was really pleased with how well the party went. Josie seemed to have a really great time too, and that's what matters the most!
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Fruit of my Labor
Remember how I said I was going to be organizing our basement? I know this is exciting news for all 7 of my readers, and you've been sitting at the edges of your seats. Well, I shall make you wait no longer. Behold the awesomeness!!
This is what the basement looked like before:
Pretty icky, huh?
Well, after several days of hard work, these are the results!
Hooray for me!
This is what the basement looked like before:
Pretty icky, huh?
Well, after several days of hard work, these are the results!
Hooray for me!
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